If you are unfortunate enough to have friends and or family being controlled by narcissists or high conflict personalities you actually become an indirect victim yourself. They will not listen to a word you say, you HAVE to let them get to the point of taking no more, it will break your heart but there will be NOTHING you can do without making your own life as bad as theirs.

I moved 9000 miles away, the whole situation was dragging me down. Victims lose ALL sense of honesty and integrity.

Therapy is the only way for the narcs and their victims.